Sunday, December 7, 2014

Dealing Haters

Haters. No one likes haters including myself. Haters could be everywhere surround you, it could be one of your followers in instagram, it could be someone you barely knew, it could be your so called friend, it could be a stranger. Scary.

I have few experiences of haters and I am no stranger to haters. I started to have haters when I was really young, of course I wasn't mature back then and I've done some mistakes that I shouldn't, but you know what? It's okay to do some of the mistakes you did, it's part of growing up. Along the way you'll see whether people still stand up for you or people that turn their back against you. 

Back then, I wasn't sure about how was my behaviour but whatever it was, it did cause a lot of people to turn their backs on me, all I know was I was just being myself. My "friends" would do some nasty talks about me, and suddenly rumours spread around the city saying untrue things about me. Especially when I just started my blog, people that barely knew me or never knew me would simply claimed me to be attention-seeker, diva, star-wannabe, self-centred, or merely trying to get guys' attention. Of course, I was devastated. What they don't know that, I write blogs not because I want to be famous at that time, I merely just you know... sharing stories and random things, not because I want to achieve the glamour life of the rich and famous. Sometime, I like to tell people about my stuff/story and what makes me happy back then like photoshoot that I was offered, my blog stats increased or what clothes I bought but never knew I would be called as self-centred or show off, only talk about myself. Again, I was beaten down deep inside and I couldn't share to people my stories and I always keep things inside whether it's a sad news or good news. I would get death threats from random strangers, I would get nasty comments, my own "friends" say nasty things about me and I would cry myself to sleep everyday and I barely go out thinking that someone might just kill me. So, that's when I given up on everything including my blog. I regretted I did that. Of course, I was young, I didn't know how to handle these.

The only thing I ever regretted in life is letting people stepping on my head, letting them win, making them feel they're superior than me and made me had the mindset " Oh, someone gonna talk about you. Don't do it." I really regretted that. I regretted that I always had the thinking of what others would think about me if i do this and that. The truth is, people gonna talk about you no matter what you do, bad or good, if the person don't like you, they think whatever you did is bad. Might as well, just don't do shit. LOL. You are not born to please everyone and you can't please everyone, there will be people that just hate you no matter what, but you know what? It's not your problem, it's their problem, so why do you care? Some people talk about you because they see you as a threat. Your life is much more interesting than theirs and therefore, you're a story! You should be proud of that! Why do you want to sacrifice your happiness for the satisfaction of these low-lives?

So How Do You Handle Haters?

The worst decision I ever made was giving these haters attention and it made things super interesting and thrilling for them. The only way to deal haters is, ignore them and be awesome. I promise you, if you just ignore about what people may think about you, sooner or later, it will be nothing to you. They're like insects that you just need to ignore, they bite you, but it's not that painful. Yes, I still receive several death threats and nasty comments. You know what I did? I laughed it off lol or totally ignore, sometime I forget I had nasty comments! You know why they don't matter? because there are people out there, that know you, love you and truly care about you, and that's all you'll ever need. Why bother the few people that obsessed about you and just keep talking and talking about you lol. You know what they say; " I don't know you, but you know me and talk about me, I must be really kick-ass."

I'm Thankful For My Haters.

Of course, these haters gave me a hard-time but you know what, you should be thankful and grateful for having them. Why? They're brutally honest about things about you and made you hate it but maybe sometime it could be true, it makes you want to improve yourself even more to prove them wrong. 

Having haters don't necessarily be a bad thing especially if you are an influencer, they could be a loyal follower of yours, they keep track whatever you did in your life, they're probably the first one to read your blog and hate on you and they're probably the first one that is up-to-date with your stories and tell their peers about you and tadaaaaah your fame is growing, they're obsessed about you. It's only good if you're an influencer LOL. 

Last but not least, it makes you feel more confident about yourself, because you're the superior one and it made them feel like shit when you actually don't really care lol. 

You should also be thankful for those "friends" that turned their back on you, you know who to keep or let go in your life. Many of my successful friends told me that having haters is a compliment, if you have haters, you've succeeded. 

So my advice to you vulnerable teenagers that's facing these challenges like this is, just be yourself, do your thing, and be happy. It happens you know, it's how the world works. Some people love you, some people don't. Life is too short to please everyone, life is too short to keep your fake friends in your life, just let them go. Some of your fake friends may come back to you and ask for help or try to be friends with you again because you've succeeded, but you know what, you don't need them at all. Life is too short to have negative people in your life. All you need in your life is positive people, people that loves you and constantly make you happy, and of course boys and girls, just continue do your awesome thing and be awesomeeeee! *they see me rollin, they hatin~~~* 

Sorry for the extremely long post, I just wanna write a post about this since I've seen a lot of my young friends dealing this issue and several people did ask me how did I handle these haters cuz I seemed pretty chill. Well, whoever read this and dealing with these situation, cheer up! I hope my post helped, let me know it did. :)

Till then,



  1. "Life is too short to please everyone". Can't agree more with you! Good outlook on dealing with them bullies (haters). Continue shinning alvy :) <3

  2. I completely agree with everything you said above about these haters. I myself never been in such situation and I pray that I wont have to deal with the extreme. My only experience was to be with my best friend who got involved in this haters problem because yeah, she's a hotstuff. Jealous people did all nasty things to her but she toughened up and it worked well, haters feel slapped XD to you Alvy, just keep on being the awesome you coz there is nothing wrong with it, cheers!

    1. That's good news for your friend! Hahaha hopefully you don't have to deal crazy haters I have! I mean if you ever do, just ignore them. Thank you so much and you too stay awesome :)


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